Motherhood has really changed my life. Ha, what a silly statement – of course it’s changed my life. Day to day operations are much different, I hardly have downtime, and I”m always exhausted, but I mean it’s changed my life in the smallest of ways. There are things I never did or pictured myself doing that I now do. I don’t know if I should blame mom brain, or blame it on the scatteredness that life becomes when you have another life to care for. Either way – there are several things that are very different about me, my personality, the way I view life, and the way I do certain things. Hint: not all of them are good… in fact, several of them could be labeled as: weird, annoying, odd, scatter-brained, anxious… the list goes on. But nevertheless, I’m a mom, and here’s what I do now that I never did before.
21 THINGS I NEVER DID BEFORE I BECAME A MOM:
1. I never had a messy car. My car was pristine and spotless. It was perfectly vacuumed and smelled like a brand new car two years in…then I had kids. Now I carry my life around. Currently I keep the following in my car at all times: five baby carriers (yes, five), emergency disposable diapers, wipes, a play mat, a giant bag of books and toys, a stroller, a park bag with a blanket and some park toys, a soccer ball, an outfit, and a bag of Grace’s shoes. That’s just every day stuff – haha. If we go on an all day outing I have tons more to add!
2. I never ate cold food. It’s true what they say – you never know the meaning of true selflessness until you’ve served everyone dinner, and drinks, then seconds, and then sat down to enjoy your own (cold) dinner. I don’t use a microwave, but maybe that’s why those were invented?
3. I never ignored my friends. This one was difficult for me to write. It’s even harder to admit. Sometimes it’s really tough to hang out with friends, especially when you have children because that takes away from the conversation, the relationship, and the moment. As much as I love time with my friends, sometimes, in the back of my mind – I think to myself… it may just be easier to cancel, or it might be easier if I don’t have to skip nap time or move it around. I will admit, however, that I always feel rejuvenated and happy when I don’t cancel and get to hang with my friends.
4. I never chose my to match my baby carriers. The struggle is real. If my outfit doesn’t match my carrier, I feel a bit sad inside 😉 No, but in all reality, I’ve definitely chosen longer dresses, and nursing-friendly blouses for babywearing and nursing. It’s a mom rite of passage.
5. I never went out of the house without make-up. I was one of those ladies who said she would NEVER go out without make-up and now I do it probably once a week. It’s bad, but honestly sometimes there isn’t time to get ready for the day.
6. I never worried about irrational things. We went out and bought a second-story fire escape ladder at Lowes the other day. That’s how paranoid I’ve become.
7. I never wiped another human’s nose with my shirt…. or my hand. This is super gross, and I know not every mom does this, but I have literally used my bare hand to wipe Grace’s nose. Mom’s gotta do what a mom’s gotta do.
8. I never viewed going to the park playground as an exciting event. Sometimes the highlight of my week is taking Grace to the park. She absolutely loves being outside.
9. I never worried about sex trafficking predators wanting to steal my child. Okay, is it just me? Or do you guys keep seeing those sex trafficking predators at Target articles everywhere? I literally see one every day and it gives me the serious creeps. So much so that every time I am strapping Grace in at Target or Sprouts, etc, I look over my shoulder, and pretty much in every other direction. Why do I have to be such a scaredy cat? (sigh).
10. I never celebrated someone for going to the bathroom. So we haven’t potty-trained Grace yet, but she does say “potty” and talks about doing it and we are legit jumping up and down every time she does.
11. I never snuck food from anyone. Especially vegan sweets. It’s not a huge habit, but since I don’t like Grace to have refined sugar, if I do have treats I have to hide them/sneak them before bed or in the car (thank you extended rear-facing).
12. I never consciously thought about the environment and the impact it may have on future humans. It’s very difficult to be forward-thinking when you’re young and just starting to learn about the world; especially if no one raised you that way. Being informed about the state of our environment and eco-system is absolutely alarming and I worry for Grace and the other kids who will have to suffer and live through the consequences.
13. I never consumed food that had been already chewed up by another human. On more than one occasion I have taken food that Grace has chewed up and eaten it. Yes, it’s pretty disgusting. I can tell you two things though – one being that I probably didn’t do it for fun, and two, I probably did it out of necessity. Right? Because if it weren’t one of those two then I’m pretty much disgusting.
14. I never wanted to be domestic. I took home economics. That’s about it. I never really had a desire to learn to cook until I needed to nourish a growing and developing child. It lit a fire in me that desires to be more domestic and learn about health, nutrition, and overall wellness. I also never cared for sewing, but now that I have a little girl, I wish I had paid more attention in home ec. It’d be nice to be able to sew her little dresses.
15. I never went 7-10 days without washing my hair. I think I am competing with myself for new personal records at this point. It’s super gross, but just the reality, especially when you have a husband that works long hours. Pair that with a (more active than a typical toddler) babe, and you’ve got a recipe for no showering.
16. I never experienced fear of the outside world and it’s influence. There is no worry like the worry of a mother. I’ve never felt so anxious and scared for the future. I know I should be excited, but I mostly am just concerned about getting my children through the teenage years and hoping to God that they come out on the other side as a halfway decent individual.
7. I never allowed/ate food in my car. Remember that new car smell I mentioned after two years of driving it? I was a stickler for eating in the car. My poor husband wasn’t even allowed to eat in it on road trips or anything. Now we eat in our car all the time; if we are out at the park and need to cool off, or we grab a quick bite. My how things have changed.
18. I never walked around my home topless. Ha! This one is hilarious, but it’s so true, and if you’re a breastfeeding mom you completely understand my struggle. Especially those first few months when baby is cluster feeding.
19. I never felt like doing chores was therapeutic. My grandma is the queen of clean. I used to ask her why and how her house was so spotless all of the time, and her answer was always, “well, doing the dishes is therapeutic, cleaning the bathroom floor is therapeutic” and it wasn’t until I became a mother that I understood what she meant. I now love the quiet, thinking time I get when I’m cleaning. I reflect, ponder, and think about things and it’s an absolute joy.
20. I never wanted to be outside in nature. You can ask my friends, family, and husband. I am NOT outdoorsy. At least, I wasn’t. I hated being outside… camping, hiking, anything that had to do with nature. Somehow, I’ve completely transformed how I feel about the outdoors. I don’t know if being outside became more magical because G enjoys it so much, or because it allows me to breathe fresh air and that’s good for the soul, but I’m a complete outdoors-loving, tree-hugging, nature-obsessed mama.
21. I never dreamed I would love something so much it would physically hurt. Some of the things in this list are very silly. And it may seem like I’m complaining about being a mother, but really, this is merely an acknowledgement of this season of life. Because these days are not going to last forever. There will be time to eat hot food, wash my hair, and do my make-up more than once a week. There will be spotless cars, delicious sweets, and untouched food all to myself. But I’ll be thinking back to these days, when my life was more full, more meaningful, and more beautiful.
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What do you do now that you never did before becoming a parent?
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